When does Ego get in the way in SAR?
My family are [eventually] realising that if you get me a book for Christmas, I’m a very happy bunny. It also means that when someone else buys a book for you, you often get to read stuff you wouldn’t normally pick up or buy.
This Christmas I got a book called “egonomics – what makes ego our greatest asset (or most expensive liability)” [Check it out on Amazon here...]
Like most people I am fully aware of how much ego can get in the way of effective SAR operations, effective SAR teams and effective SAR cooperation. It has, for a long time, been taught that there is no place for ego in SAR. Strange then to read a book which promotes ego as first and foremost an asset!
However, when you think about it, what drives us to be the best at SAR, to improve things for the misper, to get out of bed on those dark, cold, wet nights? Assets like confidence, self-esteem, open-mindedness and ambition all stem from our ego.
It is only the over-activity of ego that becomes a liability!
Marcum and Smith then, give us four early warning signs that ego is over-active. Think when you have seen them in SAR!
1. Being Comparative;
When you are constantly measuring yourself against others, your team against the next, you are not excelling but measuring your success against another. This either leads to barely tapping your potential when measuring against a low standard, or losing esteem and being discouraged when you fail to meet a standard. The best use of our talents is to use them, without comparison or competition, in the spirit of cooperation.
2. Being Defensive;
Defending an idea is good – it allows for every angle, every way of looking at it to be considered. But being defensive – letting a criticism of our idea become a criticism of ourself, is not good. It is giving our ego power, not our ideas.
3. Showcasing Brilliance;
Showcasing is not about making our ideas/talents visible, it is about wanting people to recognise and appreciate them. It is about putting yourself on a pedestal and expecting others to look. This is the ego working overtime. We need to communicate our ideas – communicate as in talk half as much as we listen!
4. Seeking Acceptance;
Things improve with debate. If we are forever worried that if an idea of ours is rejected, then that reflects a rejection of ourselves, we will start “playing it safe”. Everyone needs to learn that they are valued – for their own opinions; not for agreeing or coming to a “consensus”, watered down proposal!
These really struck me – I’m sure you all, like me, have seen what happens when these things do happen in SAR.
Question is, what can we do to ensure that we all use our egos effectively in SAR – without these negative overtones?
Perhaps a New Year’s Resolution is in order – to seek out these warning signs of over-active egos in SAR and help turn that ego into a useful asset.